Tuesday, November 17, 2009

I can't believe this story...

The last few days I have been sent some really thought provoking emails. It has lead to some wonderful family discussions and great topics for Aimee to learn about for school. This story is heartbreaking. As a mother, I feel this soldier's pain. I want to help her out, but she does not know me so how could she trust me with her most loved possession? What is she supposed to do? I know she signed up to serve our country, but why is her country turning on her while she is just looking for an answer to her unplanned problem? Read the story by Russ Bynum and you will understand what I am blogging about.

Soldier mom refuses deployment to care for baby

This undated self-portrait provided by Army Spc. Alexis Hutchinson ...



SAVANNAH, Ga. – An Army cook and single mom may face criminal charges after she skipped her deployment flight to Afghanistan because, she said, no one was available to care for her infant son while she was overseas.

Spc. Alexis Hutchinson, 21, claims she had no choice but to refuse deployment orders because the only family she had to care for her 10-month-old son — her mother — was overwhelmed by the task, already caring for three other relatives with health problems.

Her civilian attorney, Rai Sue Sussman, said Monday that one of Hutchinson's superiors told her she would have to deploy anyway and place the child in foster care.

"For her it was like, 'I couldn't abandon my child,'" Sussman said. "She was really afraid of what would happen, that if she showed up they would send her to Afghanistan anyway and put her son with child protective services."

Hutchinson, who is from Oakland, Calif., remained confined Monday to the boundaries of Hunter Army Airfield in Savannah, 10 days after military police arrested her for skipping her unit's flight. No charges have been filed, but a spokesman for the Army post said commanders were investigating.

Kevin Larson, a spokesman for Hunter Army Airfield, said he didn't know what Hutchinson was told by her commanders, but he said the Army would not deploy a single parent who had nobody to care for his or her child.

"I don't know what transpired and the investigation will get to the bottom of it," Larson said. "If she would have come to the deployment terminal with her child, there's no question she would not have been deployed."

Hutchinson's son, Kamani, was placed into custody overnight with a daycare provider on the Army post after she was arrested and jailed briefly, Larson said. Hutchinson's mother picked up the child a week ago and took him back to her home in California.

Hutchinson, who's assigned to the 3rd Combat Aviation Brigade of the Army's 3rd Infantry Division, joined the Army in 2007 and had no previous deployments, Sussman said. She said Hutchinson is no longer in a relationship with the father.

The Army requires all single-parent soldiers to submit a care plan for dependent children before they can deploy to a combat zone.

Hutchinson had such a plan — her mother, Angelique Hughes, had agreed to care for the boy. Hughes said Monday she kept the boy for about two weeks in October before deciding she couldn't keep him for a full year.

Hughes said she's already having to care for her ailing mother and sister, as well as a daughter with special needs. She also runs a daycare center at her home, keeping about 14 children during the day.

"This is an infant, and they require 24-hour care," Hughes said. "It was very, very stressful, just too much for me to deal with."

Hughes said she returned Kamani to his mother in Georgia a few days before her scheduled deployment Nov. 5.

She said they told her daughter's commanders they needed more time to find another family member or close friend to help Hughes care for the boy, but Hutchinson was ordered to deploy on schedule.

Larson, the Army post spokesman, said officials planned to keep Hutchinson in Georgia as investigators gathered facts about the case.

"Spc. Hutchinson's deployment is halted," Larson said. "There will be no deployment while this situation is ongoing."

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Russ Bynum has covered the military based in Georgia since 2001.

This is just a terrible situation that I hope will be resolved positively. I admire her for staying. She took her parental commitment seriously knowing that she would be arrested for doing the right thing. I usually support our military fully but right now, shame on them! Even if she really was trying to find a reason not to have to be deployed overseas for a year, which I do not know but if she was, her baby, a future American needed a parent at that time. That should be most important. I do realize that lots of soldiers kids need their parents and when they are overseas it is impossible but hopefully their parent put them with a family member who was willing to care for them while they were serving our country. This mother had tried and at the last moment her plan fell through. So she is to be punished for not abandoning her small child?? Don't we put people in jail for that here in America?? Besides, there are so many children in our foster system anyway, why toss another small innocent child in there before all avenues of a family member or friend caring for him first have been traveled? Just charge it to our country that is already in serious debt??? Oh I am so upset by this story!!! If anyone knows how I could help her let me know. My home is open to her baby if she needs me to care for him. I just hope that this story gets out and the right thing is done for her baby, much like she was trying to do. I am praying for you Spc. Alexis Hutchinson, and your little boy.

Monday, November 16, 2009

email that made me stop and think...really think.

I recieved this email from a friend in a homeschool group I am in. She titled this : What every American should know. It is very interesting and thought provoking, so I thought I would share this with you....


Juval Aviv was the Israeli Agent upon whom the movie ' Munich ' was based.. He was Golda Meir's bodyguard - she appointed him to track down and bring to justice the Palestinian terrorists who took the Israeli athletes hostage and killed them during the Munich Olympic Games.

In a lecture in New York City a few weeks ago, he shared information that EVERY American needs to know -- but that our government has not yet shared with us.

He predicted the London subway bombing on the Bill O'Reilly show on Fox News stating publicly that it would happen within a week. At the time, O'Reilly laughed and mocked him saying that in a week he wanted him back on the show. But, unfortunately, within a week the terrorist attack had occurred.

Juval Aviv gave intelligence (via what he had gathered in Israel and the Middle East) to the Bush Administration about 9/11 a month before it occurred. His report specifically said they would use planes as bombs and target high profile buildings and monuments. Congress has since hired him as a security consultant.

Now for his future predictions. He predicts the next terrorist attack on the U.S. Will occur within the next few months.

Forget hijacking airplanes, because he says terrorists will NEVER try and hijack a plane again as they know the people onboard will never go down quietly again. Aviv believes our airport security is a joke -- that we have been reactionary rather than proactive in developing strategies that are truly effective.

For example:

1) Our airport technology is outdated. We look for metal, and the new explosives are made of plastic.

2) He talked about how some idiot tried to light his shoe on fire. Because of that, now everyone has to take off their shoes. A group of idiots tried to bring aboard liquid explosives. Now we can't bring liquids on board. He says he's waiting for some suicidal maniac to pour liquid explosive on his underwear; at which point, security will have us all traveling naked! Every strategy we have is reactionary.

3) We only focus on security when people are heading to the gates. Aviv says that if a terrorist attack targets airports in the future, they will target busy times on the front end of the airport when/where people are checking in. It would be easy for someone to take two suitcases of explosives, walk up to a busy check-in line, ask a person next to them to watch their bags for a minute while they run to the restroom or get a drink and then detonate the bags BEFORE security even gets involved. In Israel, security checks bags BEFORE people can even ENTER the airport.

Aviv says the next terrorist attack here in America is imminent and will involve suicide bombers and non-suicide bombers in places where large groups of people congregate. (I. E., Disneyland, Las Vegas casinos, big cities New York, San Francisco, Chicago, etc.) and that it will also include shopping malls, subways in rush hour, train stations, etc., as well as rural America this time (Wyoming, Montana, etc.).

The attack will be characterized by simultaneous detonations around the country (terrorists like big impact), involving at least 5-8 cities, including rural areas.

Aviv says terrorists won't need to use suicide bombers in many of the larger cities, because at places like the MGM Grand in Las Vegas, they can simply valet park a car loaded with explosives and walk away.

Aviv says all of the above is well known in intelligence circles, but that our U. S. Government does not want to 'alarm American citizens' with the facts. The world is quickly going to become 'a different place', and issues like 'global warming' and political correctness will become totally irrelevant.

On an encouraging note, he says that Americans don't have to be concerned about being nuked. Aviv says the terrorists who want to destroy America will not use sophisticated weapons. They like to use suicide as a front-line approach. It's cheap, it's easy, it's effective; and they have an infinite abundance of young militants more than willing to 'meet their destiny'.

He also says the next level of terrorists, over which America should be most concerned, will not be coming from abroad. But will be, instead, 'homegrown' - having attended and been educated in our own schools and universities right here in the U. S. He says to look for 'students' who frequently travel back and forth to the Middle East. These young terrorists will be most dangerous because they will know our language and will fully understand the habits of Americans; but that we Americans won't know/understand a thing about them.

Aviv says that, as a people, Americans are unaware and uneducated about the terrorist threats we will, inevitably, face. America still has only have a handful of Arabic and Farsi speaking people in our intelligence networks and Aviv says it is critical that we change that fact SOON.

So, what can America do to protect itself? From an intelligence perspective, Aviv says the U.S. needs to stop relying on satellites and technology for intelligence. We need to, instead, follow Israel 's, Ireland 's and England 's hands-on examples of human intelligence, both from an infiltration perspective as well as to trust 'aware' citizens to help. We need to engage and educate ourselves as citizens; however, our U. S. government continues to treat us, its citizens, 'like babies'. Our government thinks we 'can't handle the truth' and are concerned that we'll panic if we understand the realities of terrorism. Aviv says this is a deadly mistake.

Aviv recently created/executed a security test for our Congress, by placing an empty briefcase in five well-traveled spots in five major cities. The results? Not one person called 911 or sought a policeman to check it out...in fact, in Chicago, someone tried to steal the briefcase!

In comparison, Aviv says that citizens of Israel are so well 'trained' that an unattended bag or package would be reported in seconds by citizen(s) who know to publicly shout, 'Unattended Bag!' The area would be quickly & calmly cleared by the citizens themselves. But, unfortunately, America hasn't been yet 'hurt enough' by terrorism for their government to fully understand the need to educate its citizens or for the government to understand that it's their citizens who are, inevitably, the best first-line of defense against terrorism.

Aviv also was concerned about the high number of children here in America who were in preschool and kindergarten after 9/11, who were 'lost' without parents being able to pick them up, and about our schools that had no plan in place to best care for the students until parents could get there. (In New York City, this was days, in some cases!)

He stresses the importance of having a plan, that's agreed upon within your family, to respond to in the event of a terrorist emergency. He urges parents to contact their children's schools and demand that the schools, too, develop plans of actions, as they do in Israel ..

Does your family know what to do if you can't contact one another by phone? Where would you gather in an emergency? He says we should all have a plan that is easy enough for even our youngest children to remember and follow.

Aviv says that the U. S. government has in force a plan that, in the event of another terrorist attack, will immediately cut-off EVERYONE's ability to use cell phones, blackberries, etc., as this is the preferred communication source used by terrorists and is often the way that their bombs are detonated.

How will you communicate with your loved ones in the event you cannot speak? You need to have a plan.

What to pick??


These are some of the choices we are looking at for our new bathroom.


Obviously we enjoy the look of natural stone.
That we did figure out.


But which one to choose??


This is my favorite for the floor.
The best part is this is an overstock item and it is only $2 a square foot right now.
That made me love this choice even more!!
Any suggestions?

Saturday, November 14, 2009

Shhh..don't tell my secret!


Okay so its not a Pottery Barn wreath or even Gooseberry Patch, but it is cheap.
It puts some color at my front door right now too.
The best part was it only cost $3.
Dollar Tree had the leaves, plain wreath and flowers all for $1 each.
I just put them together and Voila color at my front door.
Since we have stucco up that does not match the paint yet I needed something pretty.
Here is the secret part...
I bought 5 different other flowers from Dollar Tree too and cut them from the stems then placed them in my flower boxes (around the little hanging geraniums growing so slowly) like they were real flowers.
So now my flower boxes and my wreath match!
How cool is that?


Believe it or not, from the street they look like I grew the prettiest flowers ever!
Since I have no time to garden right now and we are having a drought they seemed like the perfect solution!
I also can recycle the flowers back into the flower boxes when Belle picks them for me.
Why did I not think of this before???

Friday, November 13, 2009

friday fill ins

#150

And...here we go!

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1. The last band I saw live was _Toby Keith_(Love that country music!!)__.
2. What I look forward to most on Thanksgiving is __I actually love cooking the meal_______.
3. My Christmas shopping is _not even started yet and dreaded this year___.
4. Thoughts of __my husband always___ fill my head.
5. I wish I could wear _shorts again, my legs have vein issues since having munchkins. I guess I could tattoo them into grapevines or climbing roses all over my thighs___.
6. Bagpipes _are very Scottish _______.
7. And as for the weekend, tonight I'm looking forward to trying to figure out our new wireless routers installation again_____, tomorrow my plans include _probably calling the "Geek Squad" to come and help me figure out how to install the wireless router that I couldn't do on Friday____ and Sunday, I want to _go to church and pray that God gives one of my munchkins the knowledge how to do this stuff for future help so I wont feel so incompetent____!

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Michael hates Math


Well, Michael Jr had his first RSP class the other day.
He said that it went ok. The teacher is nice and likes him but he just really HATES math.
He actually did finish his math work at school that day too. He stayed after school for an hour for extra help and that helped him to accomplish his math and a few other assignments.
This was the first time in a few years that he came home with only 30 minutes of homework!
That was really nice for me.
He couldn't believe he actually got to play after school!

Now in my searches to help Michael Jr at least enjoy school a little bit I found something that I tried on him yesterday. He absolutely loved it! It is a math program and he loves it!
He told me "this is why you should homeschool me mom. You know how I learn."
That was so awesome!
To top it off, the game was free to start!
The program is called
Timez attack.
It is a video game that teaches you multiplication.
I found it at www.bigbrainz.com




It is so cute. No real violence and positive reinforcement when the answers given are wrong.
Michael Jr learned more multiplication in one sitting then he has in a whole year at school. He even asked this morning if he could play it again!
This is from the boy that hates math.
We did just try the free down load yesterday, but for $40 I am willing to buy all they have to offer!






Monday, November 9, 2009

YAY!!!



Yay!!

We have so much to cheer about over here!!
Our Amazing God has blessed us so much while our computer has been down!!

Obviously we have our computer up and running again.
YAY!
We have our drywall up now!!
YAY!!
We had our house sandblasted!
YAY!!!
We have stucco on our house and garage now!
YAY!!!!
We got Michael Jr tested and finally the school is taking care of him where they were lacking!!!!
YAY! YAY!! YAY!!! YAY!!!!


I was in tears at the meeting. I was so insanely happy!
Finally people were telling me what I had been trying to tell them for years!
My son is smart but learns differently than others.
He is more of a hands on guy not a ditto lover.
I was so over joyed!
I was ready to just yank him out of public school and homeschool him with Aimee. I knew just how smart and wonderful he is, but until the day that the testing information was presented to me, I truely do not think one person at that school thought of my son as being anything more than a good boy who was not into school.
He is now in the program I have been dying to get him into. He starts his RSP classes today.
Thank you Jesus!!
I am still not ruling out the homeschooling idea for him. For right now, he will be getting the help he needs to bring back his confidence and know that he can do school work, just in a different way than some of the other kids.

I am soooo over the top happy today and I am glad my computer is up so that I can share this with you!!

This was a journey that was so worth the struggle to get there!
There is more struggle ahead of us to get him where he needs to be.
There are lovely women who will be helping us along the way.
I appreciate every single one of them!!
Especially, Dr Bradley, coming and playing advocate to be sure that Michael Jr got all that he deserved!!